Thursday, June 13, 2013

Prayers to the Moon: Living Fully with Intent

You rarely have time for everything you want in this life, so you have to make choices, and hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are. -Fred Rogers

My mother-in-law's funeral keeps weighing on my mind. It bothered me that no one wanted to talk about her. The same occurred at my father-in-law's funeral. This cemented my belief that this family has an intense need to avoid death which probably does reflect our culture. I grew up with celebrating an entire person at their death--the good, the bad, the funny. Listening to the minister talk about my mother-in-law and in his defense he only knew her after Alzheimer's had taken her away, I wondered who he was speaking about. When he asked the family to give him words that described her, the list was not surprising to me (I think it might have for him)- "stubborn," (mine which was ignored), "talkative," and"intellectual." After the service, one of my brother-in-laws shared with me "opinionated" and I countered with "immovable." He agreed that once she had an opinion, it never changed. I certainly don't want to be remembered this way.

My mother-in-law also always saved things for later and unfortunately, later never happened. This struck me as I was continuing my spring cleaning efforts. I came across a 7" x 10" black paper journal that my friend Sharon gave me. I had put it aside nearly 10 years ago to use later and probably when I thought I could do something "special" with it. So last night I set myself a challenge to use the journal and limit it to black and white. I had been thinking about one of heARTist Trading Cards group's themes--Prayers to the Moon (one of my suggestions which always brings its own set of expectations- mine not the group's). I have been collecting moon facts for years but never have them all in one place so it became my first entry. It felt wonderful for so many reasons including getting rid of lots of little pieces of paper! And so I renew my vow to live with intent. What are you saving? And what are you saving it for?

4 comments:

  1. Beautiful post ... and so sadly utterly true.

    My mother was the opposite - USE IT NOW WHILE YOU CAN (because she had emptied her MIL's house and found nightgowns, sheets, towels, and other pretties given as gifts but stashed away instead).

    I hover somewhere in the middle, depending on environmental stress levels. I try hard not to let THINGS become too precious, because when they do, they become sacred and I am afraid my efforts will not live up to the ideas my head.

    It is a journey.

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    1. It truly is a journey and one where we should have as much joy as we can squeeze out of it.

      My father-in-law had drawers full of gifts never used. He did love his ratty old clothes.

      Hugs,
      Karen

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  2. I have one of those black journals too that is lingering in my "special" "one-of-these-days" box! ! I may have to take you up on this 'challenge' ! Great idea!

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    1. You are on! Gauntlet has been throw down!

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