The Language of Letting Go

Thank you to everyone for the birthday greetings and wishes. It was one of my better birthdays and you certainly contributed to making it so. After posting, I got news that my book proposal was turned down. I won't lie. I cried. However, I did not let it spoil the day AND at least it's not my writing that was the issue. So I simply reworked the proposal, sent it out and focused on my day.

Since I got so many e-mails about letting go, I thought I would share an excerpt from one of my favorite books, The Language of Letting Go, by Melody Beattie. I highly recommend it.

Letting Go, Dec. 4
"How much do we need to let go of" a friend asked one day.
"I'm not certain," I replied, "but maybe everything."
Letting go is a spiritual, emotional, mental and physical process, a sometimes mysterious metaphysical process of releasing to God and the universe that which we are clinging to so tightly.

We let go of our grasp on people, outcomes, ideas, feelings, wants, desires, everything. We let go of trying to control our progress in recovery. Yes, it's important to acknowledge and accept what we want and what we want to happen. But it's equally important to follow through by letting go.

Letting go is the action part of faith. It is a behavior that gives God and the universe permission to send us what we're meant to have.

Letting go means we acknowledge that hanging on so tightly isn't helping to solve the problem, change the person or get the outcome we desire. It isn't helping us. In fact, we learn that hanging on often blocks us from what we want and need.

Who are we to say that things aren't happening exactly as they need to happen?

There is magic in letting go. Sometimes we get what we want soon after we let go. Sometimes it takes longer. Sometimes the specific outcome we desire doesn't happen. Something better does.

Letting go sets us free and connects us to our Source.
Letting go creates the optimum environment for the best possible outcomes and solutions.

Letting Go

Today is my birthday. I've never been comfortable with my birthday. Just so you know, it's not about the getting older part. It goes back to my childhood and I won't bore you with those details. Instead I will share with you how I have dealt with this day. When I was 24, I was pregnant with my first son, Jeremiah. I knew being a mother meant that I had to be the best person I could be. So for my birthday, I decided that each year I would give myself a gift. One year I would give myself the gift of letting something go and the next year I would gift myself by embracing something. Over the last 30 years, I have had to revisit some things. Dealing with clutter and simplifying my life have taken many years and I'm still not there yet. Wish I could be more Zen like. Some years I have cried a lot as I struggled. Some years were filled with so much joy that I thought I would burst. Some years life had a different plan. The year I decided to do something that scared me changed my life in a very big way. I went to Georgia (country not state) which lead me to a couple years of incredible adventures including travel with the quilts of Gee's Bend. Overall, it's been an interesting process of self discovery. I've learned I'm capable of more than ever thought possible.

I use to discount when people would call me courageous until I explored further what courage means. Courage comes from the Latin for "heart." Courage is also contained in the word encouragement--literally, giving heart to another.

This year I am suppose to be letting go of something that is holding me back and as I worked on deciding what that should be, I realized that this year was really about letting go AND embracing. This year I will be letting go of the fear that I don't deserve all the good things that are coming my way AND embrace all the joy and wonder of all the good things that are coming my way. I am going to make this a incredible year! What gift will you give yourself this year?

Christina Carlos

I am so pleased to share with you Christina's finished "Women of Juarez" quilt. This is Christina's second quilt! I hope you agree that she has amazing talent. I can't wait to see what she does next. I also believe more than ever that my belief in expression first works. The proof is in the quilts. I am so blessed to be able to have the women in this group in my life.

Hugh Mann

When I was working on Donna Sue Grove's healing quilt, I wanted everyone to have the opportunity to contribute in any way that they were able. This is how I became friends with 63 year old doctor of medicine and poet (http://organicMD.org) Hugh Mann. It is his poetry that connected and continues to connect us. I love when his poems appear in my inbox. He sent me a poem which I included on Donna Sue's quilt (photo). I don't know Hugh well. However, I can tell you that he is kind and has a great sense of humor. Here is his poem that I got today. Enjoy!

IT'S ALIMENTARY, MY DEAR

In Alimentarium
In the Cellulosum section
Lived a soft-hearted Hoosier named Indiana Banana.
Long and lean, he liked to hang out
with a bunch of friends.

In the Butcherinum section
Lived a salty Virginian named Sam the Ham.
Short and fat, he couldn't be cured
of his craving for sugar.

One day, Sam called Indiana yellow
And challenged Cellulosum to a tug of war.
Indiana pealed with zest
And arranged the meet on the Isle of Dairyana.

Everyone was prepared:
For Cellulosum, there were Indiana,
the Sacramento Tomato Twins,
and Artie, Mrs. Choke's son.
For Butcherinum, there were Sam, Vinnie Veal,
Bennie Beef, and Sam's cousin, Sal Spam.
Manny Manager, Stanley Stockboy, and
Charlie Checkout served as judges.

The players were mustered
And relished the caper.
To add spice, each team had cheerleaders:
Cellulosum had the Veggies
Butcherinum had the Patties.
Near the end, Cellulosum got the razzberry
for unnecessary roughage.

After two hours, Butcherinum ran out of muscle
and couldn't catch up.
Cellulosum planted their feet, held their ground,
and steamed to victory.
Later, at dinner, everyone danced the Casa-Roll
and toasted Hosanna Banana!

Tangie's birthday

Tangie Thomas' birthday is the 17th. I'm asking you to send her a birthday card. Don't include anything inside. We don't want to get her into trouble, we just want to provide her with a little sunshine. Pay close attention to the address because if you don't the card will be returned to you. Make sure you include her ID number.

Tangie Thomas #64688
Franklin PreRelease Center
1800 Harmon Ave
Columbus, OH 43223

Thanks!

Good News to Share

The wait is over! I'm one of nine artists (a pastel artist, six photographers, and a fiber group)who will exhibit at the Botanical Conservatory in Fort Wayne, Indiana in 2010. This will be the first time all my masks will be exhibited all together which makes me so happy. Don't have any details yet. Got a big smile on my face!

This particular mask is called "Birthing the Crone." She has quotes on women and aging in her hair. I made her when I was dealing with turning 50 and menopause. I have someone who really wants to buy her but I just can't let her go. I also have discovered that people either love her or hate her. There is no in between which I always find interesting.

Donna Sue Groves

When I wake in the morning and before I go to bed at night, I send simple, loving requests to the universe/powers that be for friends and love ones in need. Donna Sue is one of those people and I haven't shared anything about her in a while. First, the photograph was taken by Julie Donofrio of Donna Sue's quilt. Julie and John Sanders are doing an incredible project called "The Hardest Year." They are traveling across the country capturing the stories of people having tough times. There is on Donna Sue called "A Patchwork of Hope: Donna Sue Groves, the woman behind barn quilts, faces the challenge of her life." http://thehardestyear.com/2009/07/a-patchwork-of-hope-donna-sue-groves-the-woman-behind-barn-quilts-faces-the-challenge-of-her-life/ Please go and watch it. Just make sure you have tissues handy.